Sunday, June 18, 2006

Real Men...Real Dad's

How can you write something to a person who basically shaped your life? Or how can a handful of words justify his importance?

Ever since my Dad had a stroke last year, I have come to accept that he is not the father I used to know. Greatly did the disease affect his speech and once a great conversationalist now became a passive listener. Once a very active man now confined to his own thoughts and his own world. Once a very patriarchal husband now relies on the guidance of his devoted wife.

The hardest part for every sons or daughters I believe is to witness their parents grow weaker every year. Aging is inevitable. Like every ones life, their season of fall is in the offing.

My Dad has shares of flaws and issues that could fill up a TIME magazine but each imperfections come an undeniable truth that he is the best father I could ask for. I may not be the man that I am now if not for his altruistic sacrifices and selfless love that he willingly poured out since I was a kid. He knows his single most priority, and I damn sure that it is us.

Because of him, I have come to know God. That He will always be my guidepost even if he is not around anymore.

Because of him, I realized that real strength lies within my heart not in my hands. That people will always disappoints me but my strength of character will always show each time I hit my lowest points.

Because of him, I know I’m being loved.

He embodied what a father must be like: Firm but gentle, strong but kind, a towering figure but a kneeling soul.

What I missed most was our lengthy conversations. He encouraged me to speak my thoughts out loud. We may have agreed to disagree but as the father that he is, he always reprimands when I’m getting out of line.

If I could only bring back the time when we talk about life in general, when he shared his thoughts to me, when he voiced out his frustrations … when he lead our morning prayers. But now, all I hear is a resounding silence from his lonely world. Weary eyes that want to convey his two cents but couldn’t…

If only... I would give all!

To you Dad, life couldn’t be more complete if it wasn’t you.

Everybody can be a father but not everybody can be a dad!

Happy Father’s Day!


Anonymous Anonymous said...

you were blessed with a good relationship with your father. something to be cherished for a lifetime.

happy father's day to your dad jef.

12:29 PM  
Blogger gone said...

wow guy, made me cry...that's the kind of dad who you carry in your heart and give to you kids one day.

Thas a gift from God he has given you.


11:00 PM  
Blogger His suzy said...

Jef, thanks for stopping by my blog and leaving a comment. I really appreciate it. Your post brought tears to my eyes! We're both so fortunate to have and have had wonderful men as our dads.

8:59 AM  
Blogger don said...

Me too! My father died of Cancer. There were many stages. Yet each stage as he became farther from us, we had a great sense of him getting closer to our ultimate father. Though sad, I wouldnt trade a minute. So cherish this time you have with your dad. Sing to him, read to him and remember to instil these great things in your children and above all give thanks.He sounds like a great man!

11:21 AM  
Blogger j said...

Not everybody can be a Dad indeed. I have known quite a few who are products of broken marriages and stay with their Mom, and I've seen their worst. There's a lot to be thankful for because we have great Dads Jef :)

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